Am I doing it wrong?

'Why doesn't my boyfriend like receiving oral sex? Am I doing it wrong?'

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/10914997/Why-doesnt-my-boyfriend-like-receiving-oral-sex-Am-I-doing-it-wrong.html

As one reader asks why her boyfriend doesn't appear to enjoy receiving oral sex, Dr Petra Boynton, the Telegraph's sex and relationship agony aunt, urges her not to jump to conclusions that he has a sex problem

I’ve got a new boyfriend and he hates me going down on him. I’ve tried several times and he either asks for something else or moves me away. Do I need to alter my technique to make him like it? I don’t know what’s wrong with him as all my exes loved oral sex.

Why might he not like oral sex

Contrary to popular messages in magazine sex features, self-help books, or porn not all people with penises enjoy receiving oral sex. That may be because they:

are afraid it may be painful or uncomfortable

had a bad experience with an ex partner

get very aroused and come too quickly, which they find embarrassing

become anxious and lose their erection, which upsets them

don’t believe their partner really wants to go down on them so can’t relax and enjoy it

have been taught oral sex is wrong/ bad/ dirty/ disgusting/ oppressive

are concerned about their personal hygiene

are worried about their penis size/ shape/ appearance

have a previous history of sexual abuse

don’t like giving oral sex, and feel if someone goes down on them they’re expected to return the favour