4 Surprising Secrets of Sex Appeal
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dating-and-mating/201706/4-surprising-secrets-sex-appeal
We tend to believe that in order to boost our sex appeal, we need to alter our physical appearance, whether through diet, increased muscle tone, makeup, or sexier clothing.
But consider these four extra-ordinary strategies to boost your sexiness — no physical modifications required.
1. Selflessness Is Sexy
Helping others is typically intended to benefit those in need, but there are numerous benefits to the individual who provides the help as well. Helping can inspire a good mood, alleviate a bad mood, and increase the likelihood of reciprocal helping (see Kassin et al., 2011). Another way in which we benefit from helping others is in becoming increasingly appealing to potential partners. Moore et al. (2013) found that “selflessness is sexy” (p. 182); helping behavior attributed to both male and female targets increased their attractiveness as long-term sexual partners. Helpful men were also perceived as more attractive for a short-term encounter. Why is helpfulness sexy? The authors propose that being helpful may signal both the presence of good genes as well as a willingness to share in parental care or to share resources. In this research, individuals described as helping an elderly neighbor with shopping, mentoring children at a local school, or volunteering at a homeless shelter were consistently rated as more attractive than counterparts who engaged in behaviors not associated with helping.
2. Become a Sexy Stranger
Classic research shows that familiarity leads to liking, known as the mere exposure effect (Zajonc, 1968). However, recent research reveals that familiarity is not always desirable in a mate; while women prefer familiarity in a partner, men prefer unfamiliarity. Men rate women as significantly less sexy when they have seen their photographs before meeting in person (Little et al., 2013). Why are strangers sexy? The researchers interpret these results as consistent with the potential evolutionary benefits to men of mating with more than one partner. Intriguingly, new research shows that women also prefer unfamiliar male partners, under certain circumstances. Salvatore et al. (2017) discovered that women in the most fertile portion of their menstrual cycles found men from other ethnic backgrounds (but not men from the same ethnic background) more attractive as both short and long-term partners. The authors speculate that strangers are sexy due to the desire for genetically diverse offspring or to the unconscious motivation to avoid incest — because, yes, disturbingly, we are generally attracted to our opposite sex relatives.
3. Get Creative
Showcasing your creativity may enhance your sex appeal. Once again, women’s fertility status may be an important determinant of the attractiveness of creativity. Haselton and Miller (2006) found that women in the most fertile portion of their cycles preferred creativity to wealth in potential male partners. Why is creativity attractive? The authors believe it may signal good genes or intelligence. They also propose that creativity in women may attract men; however, they did not test that possibility in this study. Musical creativity may also be attractive to women. Guéguen et al. (2014) found that men were more likely to obtain women’s phone numbers for a date when carrying a guitar case than when carrying a gym bag or nothing. Again, these authors postulate that musical talent may signal good genes or intellectual ability.
4. Open Up
An open body posture can convey one's romantic interest (Moore, 2010), but it can also inspire romantic interest in others. A more expansive pose (taking up more space with one's body) enhanced both men's and women's chances of success in both online dating and speed-dating interactions (Vacharkulksemsuk et al., 2016). What makes openness sexy? The posture may signal dominance but also a willingness to share resources (Vacharkulksemsuk et al., 2016). It may also be associated with confidence, which is considered an essential aspect of sex appeal by both men and women (Smolak et al., 2014; Lamb et al., 2015).
Try some of these extraordinary strategies to enhance your sex appeal. Or consider these unanswered questions: Is it selfish to use selflessness to increase sexiness? And if it is selfish and not selfless, is it still sexy?
5 Behaviors That Increase Your Sex Appeal
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/5-behaviors-increase-sex-appeal/
“Sex appeal is fifty percent what you’ve got and fifty percent what people think you’ve got.” – Sophia Loren
Sex appeal isn’t all about how you look. Appearance does play a role in how sexy one is, but there’s more to it than that. When we interact with people, we’re interacting with the whole person. Personality and behavior does just as much to boost your sex appeal as working out and eating right does. People become attracted to all kinds of behaviors and mannerisms in people.
In fact, some behaviors increase your physical attractiveness to others. So, if you were pretty before, your personality and behavior could make you stunning. It may take some change in behavior on your part, but here are several ways to increase your sex appeal.
Sexual attraction https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_attraction
LES MAMELLES DE TIRÉSIAS de Francis Poulenc (2009-10)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YRJSHLuyov8
Charles Castronovo "Lunge da lei...De' miei bollenti spiriti" La Traviata
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okcycEh4T40
Act IV Duet: Romeo et Juliet
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZkoOanJeDIk
Natalie Dessay, Charles Castronovo - Saint Sulpice duet (Manon) Toulouse 13/10/13
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_yBdmn0Mdfc
La Traviata - Atto II, Quadro primo : Scena ed Aria, "Lunge da lei - De' miei bollenti spiriti" (11)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7dQCn__xeE
Massenet: "Manon": Beginning of Act 2 - Anna Netrebko, Rolando Villazon
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AgUsZdOTNx0
Manon - Anna Netrebko & Roberto Alagna - Act 2 (Opera by Jules Massenet)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1fyytF2xsio
Anna Netrebko und Rolando Villazon: Romeo et Juliette, Manon
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pto-BveYzGc